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Christina Aguilera's bad feelings towards her father Fausto are well-known, stemming from alleged abuse towards her and sister Rachel as children, as well as their mother Shelly. For his part, Fausto Aguilera has always denied those allegations, saying in one interview that he and his wife "disagreed on a lot of things and we both had hot tempers" but that he had "never abused them in any way, and they know that." Aguilera, now 31, indicated in a recent interview with "Latina Magazine" that she might be open to reconciliation. "[M]aybe one day we can do lunch ... I'm 31 years old now. Maybe it's time."

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Feb 24, 2012 9:37AM
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Just because we like her singing doesn't mean we have to like her political, religious  or family related views. And if she chooses to make them public she also faces the blow back.  My own view?  I didn't like my father very much when i was her age either, but in time I grew to understand why he acted the way he did.  She's still very young and not yet fully mature. In time she will hopefully soften her views on her father and other things.
Feb 24, 2012 9:10AM
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  Nobody knows anything about Adele so we shouldn't be speculating, that's how people become misinformed.  We support Adele and Adele's music.  Her troubles are Adele's troubles and she wanted to speak out, why is this so wrong?.  My daughter's father walked away when she was just two years old.  I have never put any negative ideas into her head about him. She would ask me when he was coming back and I had to tell her the truth that I did not know.  She went through some very bad phases and one of the biggest was abandonment. His leaving her (this was the second time) made her uncomfortable developing new relationships and when her step father came into the picture it took him years to develop a solid relationship.  My daughter is nine years old now and she has a father (her step father)  but I know deep down she continues to feel that abandonment from her biological father but she refuses to talk about it. I do feel that as she gets older she may continue to harbour negative feelings towards her father and may one day say to him as Adele, "I hate you", "I hate you for what you did", "I hate you for leaving me" - shouldn't she be allowed to express how she truly feels? Shouldn't her father accept that she feels this way about him.  Only after he accepts that she feels this way about him will they even  be able to communicate because if he doesn't accept it he will deny having done anything wrong.
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OK, any man can father a child. He did not give her life. He just made a deposit. My saying to my first child who was neglected by his father was always, "Any man can father a child, but it takes a real man to be a Daddy!!!" My son was recently married and was adament that he did not want his biological father knowing any of it. His stepfather, whom has been his daddy since he was 1 1/2 was and is his dad. His biological father has always known where he is and has made alot of broken promises and never spent a dime on him over the years.

 

You go Adele, maybe you will open the eyes of these dead beat dads out there!!!!

 

And as for people making comments after this.... Like I said, his father always knew where he was and was never turned away if he wanted to see him. But, he never wanted to see him, he was too busy having his cake and eating it too. He even saw him on his birthday one year, by chance, not because he wanted to, and didn't even give him a birthday wish, card or gift. So like people are saying, Adele has her reasons and she is sticking to them and I  congratulate her for that!!!!!!!!!!

 

I notice the comments are from men, does the truth hurt????????

 

Feb 24, 2012 9:01AM
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Her father may have helped to give her life (but it does take 2) but it seems it was her mother that gave her the 'comfort of living'. Like it was said in an earlier post, who are you to judge her. You don't know her nor do you know her father. Would like to see how you would react if you were in half of these stars shoes!!!

 

Also I agree that men are given a bad rap, just because a couple of men do not look after their child appropriately, does not mean that all men are that way!!! There are wonderful single dads and single moms!!

Feb 24, 2012 8:49AM
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omfg! really msn!? there are real stories that need attention in the world, and this is what u clowns focus on? for shame.
Feb 24, 2012 7:04AM
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I'm not at all shocked at what celebs have to say. I have the same anger about my past. I like to say all the horrible things that I am feeling. Except my situation is reversed. I loved my dad and hated my mother.It gets the poison out of my system. It is not healthy to suppress true feelings, although society thinks we are supposed to say the right thing openly.
Feb 24, 2012 2:47AM
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Posting a quick response to such a emotional and complicated situation is not fair to all sides involved in the MSN headline. Vilifying Adele for speaking out (if she did, and the media did not in actuality spin her words),  is unfair and shallow.  If she is speaking out to heal and face her emotions and anger, then let her do that.  I wonder if the negative posters are ALWAYS careful with their words.  Hopefully they never use gay as a put down, and show tolerance for the poor and homeless. 

 

Unless we know Adele personally (thus her personal situation), we really have no right to pass judgment or condemn her opinion. 

 

I ask of the folks who have posted here:  do you speak from experience and empathy?  Have you ever suffered pain because of a troubled upbringing or traumatic situation.

 

In order to pass judgement perhaps we need to spend a day (or more), in that persons' shoes.

 

The first thoughts  that came to my mind were, "gee, that may be why she can compose and sing such touching songs...because she is working through her pain in a constructive way.

 

Thank you for reading and hopefully taking time to reflect.

Feb 24, 2012 6:52AM
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OMG all the comments here are crazy, First she can feel any way she want to about her own relationships. Family does not always come first, sometimes they hurt you worse than any stranger could, and no one needs to just take it because they are "family". All you dads are right, relationships fail, and you have your reasons for leaving, and they are probably valid and yay for you for getting out of a bad situation, BUT that doesn't mean you get to pass on being a father. Thousands of relationships fail, and thousands of men stay in there childrens lives. Its a choice to walk away and never look back. when you make it you cannot cry foul. In this case the sides are likely the same, he left (estranged being the key word) she needed him to stay.
Feb 24, 2012 9:22AM
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It seems that some anger is aimed at fathers who abandoned them due to a separation or divorce

resulting in the trials of single parenthood. Hmmmm!  Understandable consequences.

Thus exposing families to the biases of family court.

It's not humerous that we as a society try and take daddies away from their daughters in family court.

Shame on us!

 

Feb 24, 2012 11:44AM
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Ohhh my gosh some of you guys are certainly rude on here!!!!  If my father did any of these alleged things I would say and do the exact same thing!!  Just because she is famous and these are the people we hear about in every day life doesn't give us the right to judge!!  We don't know the whole story.  These people are famous but they are still people.  You go Adele!!!  I love you and your music!!  Don't ever let anyone take you down!! Be yourself girl!!
Feb 24, 2012 9:15AM
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Whatever You Say Will Come Back to Haunt You...your Voice not going to last neither your glory, I seen many stupid singers and entertainers in the past got deceived by what they accomplished and died lonely, poor or by drug abuse...and MSN...in this World there are many important things to report about...I fee sorry for wasting my time reading this, never again! 
Feb 24, 2012 8:32AM
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Men have been put in many bad situations due to a relationship gone wrong. The courts and public have grouped all men together for some bad . Just like there are bad or terrible wives ,girlfriends ,and even mothers. We all need to be judged on our individual actions and yes men and women are human . Adel deserves the right speak about her father any way she wishes but remember we don't know his life ,troubles or his hurtful past of his own . Blame society and government ........change your outlook and change the stereo types for the future of our kids and grandkids. Because your Son or Daughter could be in this position 20 yrs from now .

 

Abused Single Father , with wonderful children ..Canada

 

Feb 24, 2012 8:08AM
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a good daughter's compliment for dad.
Feb 24, 2012 8:05AM
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i support ADELE on her feelings , afterall she is human and when you hurt someone so bad it takes a lifetime to heal , so for all you ADELE bashers take a look at yourself first  , just because she is sucsesfull she cant have feelings????? LOSERS

Feb 24, 2012 11:58AM
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I think it's really too bad she said that...it's always sad to hear about a hurting family.

i hate to admit this,,,but if asked, I probably would have said the same thing,  My father was horrible to us. 

The question is...would i?  I'd like to think I would....I don't think I'd actually do it though.

but I'm certain I'd give him the finger

Feb 24, 2012 8:39AM
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If u don't like her music then don't listen to it, but how can any of you judge her on what she thinks of her father, it must be nice to never understand the hate someone can have for a parent. Not everyone was blessed with respectable parents and to judge another because of your religious beliefs just shows your true ignorance and lake of truely understanding human nature, get your closed mind out of the bible and try thinking for yourself.
Feb 24, 2012 12:08PM
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It's easier to become a father than to be one. (I can't take credit for this; I just forget who said it first)
Feb 24, 2012 5:08AM
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It is sad that Adele has so much hatred lingering.  There is always two sides to a story.  The children never get both sides.  One parent is compelled to leave while the other stays.  The one who stays can influence the child in ways that are absolutely one sided for many reasons.  Perhaps to protect the child, or for mean hurtful reasons, for selfish reasons that don't speak the real truth.  Maybe he left because he wasn't going to be tricked into being her partner because of her pregnancy.  He might have left due to her infidelity, her unsettled mind and actions, many many reasons.  Reasons that you will probably never know for certain, for true.  To say you will spit in his face is so horrible.  I wonder if that has anything to do with her having an ex instead of a current boyfriend.  Anyhow Adele, your music is beautiful, you have beauty inside of you, I would rather see that part of you. You may not know the whole story.
Feb 24, 2012 1:04AM
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Thought eminem woulda been up there, too.
Feb 24, 2012 12:30PM
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WOW... leave the woman alone, she has her reasons for hating her biological father... ooops... sorry... sperm donor.  I believe in giving parents respect but ONLY the ones that raised you and nurtured you.  Biology alone does NOT make a parent and SHOULD not entitle you to your kids' affection or respect.  Only being a good PRESENCE and INFLUENCE in your kids' lives gives you that.  

It's people like you, who insist that she should love her father or make peace with him despite how he has wronged her, that perpetuate the horrible abuse and neglect of children in society.  You brainwash them into believing they have to be nice to and respect people who treat them like garbage or ignore them all together while wrapping it up into a nice little twisted "love" package that completely invalidates kids' rightful feelings of hurt or abandonment, and leads them into low-self esteem and dysfunctional adult relationships.  No wonder society is so screwed up!  

If Adele's father hurt her, she has the right to cut him out of her life, regardless of how much he wants to be in hers.  That is her right and privilege as a strong adult.  We have the choice to walk away from pain and NEVER look back.
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